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I am 31 years old, I am engaged, own my own home, have a gorgeous 11 month old son, and I guess you could say so far I have a sucesful career. Is this normal for most entering their thirties? Who knows?

A few decades ago, I would of been deemed by society as too old to be having kids, and living out of wedlock would have been a sin.

I was never one of those girls who grew up dreaming of their wedding day, or meeting the man of their dreams, settling down and having children. I dreamt of having a successful career, making a difference, and being independant. Rather than putting an age on getting married, I would put an age on what job I wanted, and earning enough to afford little luxuries. Only five years ago I had none of the above and if you’d of asked me then if I would of been in this position now I probably would of laughed.

I hear friends, colleagues and even strangers talk about what you should of achieved by the time you’re 30. Typically people want to of travelled in their 20’s, and then be married / engaged, own a property, be considering children, and earning a decent salary by their early 30’s.

Is it society putting pressure on people to have this expectation?

Is it our peers?

So if you reach you 30 and have all of the above are you then deemed successful?

In my opinion age is just a number, you only have one go at life, and its YOUR life, no one elses. I came about this post for a couple of reasons. Recently a couple of friends who will be turning 30 next year having been writing bucket lists, changing up their lives and making important decisions, and they have all said “oh but I’m going to be 30 next year, and I don’t have [a husband, a baby, a house a career]”, but I want to shake them and tell them to go enjoy their lives, they have plenty of time to do all that.

Another reason I wrote this was because of a montage we did in work, each person had to write in two words what we would of said to our younger selves. I found this too hard to do in two words, so I just suggested ‘no regrets’. I dont think people should regret anything as what ever decison you made at the time, you would of done for a very valid reason, and there is no point on dwelling on things you can’t change. However my favourite came from our Creative Partner, he nailed it with ‘Trust Dreams’, I realy think dreams can be achieved if you put your mind to it….and stop wasting time thinking about where and what you should have by the young age of 30.

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So what does everyone else think?

Does society have a checklist of where you should be at the age of 30?

What would your two words of advice be to your younger self?

Join me and post a selfie with your #wizewords to your younger self.

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One response to “Age: A number or a deadline?”

  1. Tink Jayne says:

    I think its different for Men and Women. If women didn’t have a biological clock ticking, I don’t think there would be pressure. Also, unfortunately a single career women in her mid-forties is often deemed sad and lonely by society, whilst a single career guy in his forties is apparently a catch! So I can understand women feeling pressured to get all these things quickly. BUT, 30 is still so young, and with marriage and kids coming much later in a persons life these days, I think it’s fine to not have everything by 30. It’s great if you do, but also it means your very committed to your life. Not having everything at 29,30,31,39, means you are also VERY free, and freedom is a luxury you can’t buy!
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